Promote Self-Esteem to your child
There are those days when we tend to say to our kids that:
- You don’t know how to do it.
- You don’t even can dress yourself alone
- You are useless
- etc.
This can affect their self-esteem and it is one thing we should stimulate.
In the first years of a child’s life the concept is built after what the other people think and say. If a child grows up on an environment where teachers, family and friends have positive expectations about a child, probably that child will grow up with positive concepts about himself/herself.
The sensation of being wanted is the essential reference to how much we are valued by others. Make our children feel important and valuable is essential for a correct development of the auto esteem. We should never made depreciatory comments, even in difficult situations in which is complicated to domain our bad humor.
One thing is to call attention of a situation that caused you grief, and another is to humiliate another human being, in this case our son/daughter. Years later, it’s probable that what was said that day, and the way it was said, touched him/her very deeply.
From: Parent Center:
Carve out time to give your kindergarten your undivided attention — this can do wonders for a child’s self-worth because it sends the message that you think she’s important and valuable. And it doesn’t have to take a lot of time. Stop flicking through the mail if she’s trying to talk with you or turning off the TV long enough to answer a question. Make eye contact so it’s clear that you’re really listening to what she’s saying. When you’re strapped for time, you can let your child know without ignoring her needs. Say, “Tell me all about what you did at school, and then when you’re finished I’ll need to make our dinner.”
I try to keep this in mind but sometimes, in stressed moments I tend to say things that I regret later.
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