My kids: Growing up means being more demanding?
I had a very stressful weekend. The kids are very demanding when it comes to my attention. I thought that the older the more independent but it turns out be the contrary.
My kids want me to be a constant presence in their lives when it comes to play games or just watch TV. If they are going to watch a movie they like, they want me to be next to them, just to be present. If they are playing games I have to participate or if it is a one person game I just have to be there to…watch. All the other activities at home like cooking, laundry, cleaning are seen as enemies.
When I say that I have something else to do, they keep asking me when I will join them, they will do it until I join them. If they are going to watch a movie and I take advantage of that and go the computer they keep calling to say: Look at this scene; Look at that, etc etc.. I end up doing nothing because I can’t concentrate. If I go to another room they end up next to me requiring attention.
This is really tough for me because although I know I have to have my own space and time, the guilty that follows me everyday due to fact that I work full time and spend just a couple of hours a day with them, forces me to give them attention on the weekend.
Now is it Quality Attention I give them? No, sometimes it’s not because I’m not dedicated 100% to them. Most of the time I have in mind that I have to clean, wash, blog, etc.. Do I have to change? Yes, I do. One of my resolutions for 2009 is to try and do everything during week days and leave at least Sunday free for my kids. No cleaning, no blogging, completely off everything.
It’s not going to be easy, sometimes dirty clothes just appear from nowhere and I have to wash it but I’m going to try to avoid that situation. To-Do-List is a priority. I know I’ve said this before but it is a “must” I have to accomplish.
What about you? How do you cope with these situations?
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